10. Maybe Happiness is Loving Our Father

Confucius and the Rituals of Dad

  1. Lon S. Nease PhD, MA2 and
  2. Michael W. Austin associate professor3
  1. Andrew Komasinski MA, PhD

Published Online: 13 AUG 2010

DOI: 10.1002/9781444324464.ch10

Fatherhood - Philosophy for Everyone

Fatherhood - Philosophy for Everyone

How to Cite

Komasinski, A. (2010) Maybe Happiness is Loving Our Father, in Fatherhood - Philosophy for Everyone (eds L. S. Nease and M. W. Austin), Wiley-Blackwell, Oxford, UK. doi: 10.1002/9781444324464.ch10

Editor Information

  1. 2

    University of Cincinnati, USA

  2. 3

    Eastern Kentucky University, USA

Author Information

  1. Fordham University, USA

Publication History

  1. Published Online: 13 AUG 2010
  2. Published Print: 24 SEP 2010

Book Series:

  1. Philosophy for Everyone

Book Series Editors:

  1. Fritz Allhoff

Series Editor Information

  1. Western Michigan University, USA

ISBN Information

Print ISBN: 9781444330311

Online ISBN: 9781444324464



  • Confucius and the rituals of dad - happiness, is loving our fathers;
  • For Confucius, all of these roles are important - relationship for living well, between fathers and sons;
  • Confucius suggesting a virtue ethic;
  • Confucius' picture of the world - being foreign to Americans and others;
  • humanizing ritual, finding the way to say “I Love You”;
  • Confucius, seeing rituals as rich and valuable performances - more important than governments or laws;
  • Confucian idea, translated as rituals - enabling individuals to communicate with each other;
  • Plato and Confucius - and the father-son relationship;
  • guide of excellence - making sense of the master;
  • wisely balancing discipline


This chapter contains sections titled:

  • Humanizing Ritual: Finding the Way to Say “I Love You”

  • Plato and Confucius: The Importance of the Father-Son Relationship

  • The Guide of Excellence: Making Sense of the Master

  • Making Sense of Virtue: Excelling at Relating

  • From Theory to Practice: Wisely Applied

  • Wisely Balancing Discipline

  • Conclusion: Building a Happy Family on Ritual, Excellence, and Wisdom

  • Notes