The purpose of this qualitative, phenomenological study is to describe intimate partner violence as experienced by men and to formulate the common structure of meanings of experiences of men exposed to intimate partner violence. The data were gathered by open-ended interviews with 10 (n = 10) men. The participants had experiences in intimate partner violence. All the 10 men were interviewed twice and they were allowed to tell their experiences as they liked. The data were analysed by applying the method developed by Colaizzi. The experiences of men formulated three main themes describing the factors leading to intimate partner violence, being a victim of intimate partner violence and own violent behavior. The main themes are named as follows: (1) a burden on the pair relationship; (2) face to face with violence; and (3) from denying violence to striving towards the truth. The research results enhance the understanding of the experiences of men. The information may be useful in promoting women's, men's and families' health, developing work on violence and in the education of professionals in social and health care. The results may also help women to understand men's experiences in a pair relationship.