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Adult attachment and dating strategies: How do insecure people attract mates?

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  • CLAUDIA CHLOE BRUMBAUGH,

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    1. Queens College, CUNY
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    • Claudia Chloe Brumbaugh, Department of Psychology, Queens College, City University of New York; R. Chris Fraley, Department of Psychology, University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign.

  • R. CHRIS FRALEY

    1. University of Illinois
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    • Claudia Chloe Brumbaugh, Department of Psychology, Queens College, City University of New York; R. Chris Fraley, Department of Psychology, University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign.


  • This article is based in part on a dissertation conducted by Claudia Chloe Brumbaugh under the supervision of R. Chris Fraley. We would like to thank Bradley Brummel, Ed Diener, Joshua Jackson, Nancy McElwain, Melissa Milanak, Brent Roberts, and Glenn Roisman for their contributions to this project. We also gratefully acknowledge Timothy Nokes, Jennifer Stewart, and Dustin Wood for helpful comments on previous versions of this article, and Jessica Chen, William Chopik, and Carly Parnitzke for their assistance in data collection and coding.

Claudia Chloe Brumbaugh, Department of Psychology, Queens College, 65-30 Kissena Building, Flushing, NY 11367, e-mail: claudia.brumbaugh@qc.cuny.edu.

Abstract

When asked to choose among secure or insecurely attached partner prototypes, research shows that people tend to select secure individuals as their first choice. Despite this pattern, not everyone chooses secure partners in reality. The goal of this study was to examine the ways in which insecure individuals present themselves that might make them attractive to others. To achieve this goal, participants were led to believe that they were interacting with a possible date. That insecure individuals presented themselves as warm, engaging, and humorous people when communicating with potential mates were found. These findings suggest that insecure people have numerous dating tactics and positive qualities that they display to win over romantic partners.

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