This paper explores the relationship between an actor's self-concept and a significant other's actual and perceived descriptions of the actor. One hundred sixteen married couples were interviewed. Three areas of investigation were developed: role-taking as social influence, accuracy in role-taking and agreement and evaluation between spouses. The data did not support the reflective self-concept notion. There was significant discrepancy between husbands’and wives’descriptions of each other which resulted from actors underestimating their spouse's evaluation of them, and wives appearing more generous than husbands in describing spouses as desirable.