Dancing in the Dark II. Helping and Not-So-Helping Hands
Article first published online: 31 MAR 2007
Volume 8, Issue 4, pages 280–286, December 1981
How to Cite
Blachman, L. (1981), Dancing in the Dark II. Helping and Not-So-Helping Hands. Birth, 8: 280–286. doi: 10.1111/j.1523-536X.1981.tb01592.x
- Issue published online: 31 MAR 2007
- Article first published online: 31 MAR 2007
ABSTRACT: Mothers having difficulty with breastfeeding often find a lack of acknowledgement of the normal ambivalence about many aspects of the early mothering experience. Mothers, who need themselves to be nurtured, instead find people anxious to give advice which is biased by their own experience or dogmas. The “helpers” too easily conclude that what worked for them, or what seems “natural,” is correct for mothers in general. They are quick to make negative judgments about women who do not follow the idealized model.