I would like to acknowledge helpful conversations with Carol Beckner, Laura Benkov, Michele Bograd, Judith Kates, Sallyann Roth, and several clients, about ideas in this article.
A Consideration of Intimate and Non-Intimate Interactions in Therapy†
Version of Record online: 30 JUL 2004
Volume 31, Issue 1, pages 45–59, March 1992
How to Cite
WEINGARTEN, K. (1992), A Consideration of Intimate and Non-Intimate Interactions in Therapy. Family Process, 31: 45–59. doi: 10.1111/j.1545-5300.1992.00045.x
- Issue online: 30 JUL 2004
- Version of Record online: 30 JUL 2004
- Manuscript received December 20, 1990; Revisions submitted June 4, 1991; Accepted November 11, 1991.
Viewing therapy as a conversation among participants, rather than as an interview concluding with an intervention selected by an expert, allows one to consider the contributions of each member of the conversation in comparable terms. I propose a distinction between intimate interaction, in which meaning is co-created or shared, and non-intimate interaction, in which meaning is rejected, provided, or misunderstood. I suggest that intimate interaction between therapists and clients is therapeutic and that non-intimate interaction rarely is. However, it is in the acknowledgment and repair of the inevitable lapses of intimate interaction that occur between therapists and clients that there is an opportunity for a profoundly meaningful collaboration.