Current research about violence in intimate relationships suggests that at least two qualitatively distinct types of violence exist. This new knowledge challenges the dominant conceptualization of intimate violence as solely a manisfestation of patriarchal male dominance. Following a review of the research and analysis of illustrative clinical examples, a conceptual framework is presented that assists couple therapists in answering three salient questions: What type of violence am I most likely to be working with? How can I assess the differences between types of violence? And how might I proceed with treatment for different types of violence?